Posts Tagged ‘The Five Languages of Love in Business’
Step into the middle of this board room conversation …”I learned my wife doesn’t care about getting gifts or flowers, she wants me to help out around the house. Oh, not my girlfriend, if I don’t tell her how special she is to me all the time, she thinks something is wrong!” After several female board members piped in about what their beliefs were about their husbands and partners preferences, someone suggesting reading The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Being a consultant who works with companies with people conflict, I pondered on the “appreciation languages” of my consulting client’s employees…were they hearing the right language?
How many times had I interviewed employees who were starved for recognition from their manager? Research had reported countless times that money was not a motivator, so what could an employer do? Most look to books for an idea list of recognition methods, without any idea of what would speak to the individual.
If Dr. Chapman’s ideas work for love, how about for business?
With my apologies to Dr. Chapman, how about a quiz which flags the primary way our employees want to be recognized at work?
APPRECIATION LANGUAGE QUIZ
Select your number 1 and number 2 preferred method of appreciation from the choices below.
I feel most valued when a person/manager/co-worker:
______Tells me how grateful they are for me and the things I do for them or the company
______ Gives me their focused attention without any interruptions
______Brings me a gift or other tangible item of appreciation
______Pitches in to help me, perhaps taking over something that I’m behind on or find routine or boring
______Expresses positive feelings through acceptable physical contact- like a pat on the back, high-5 or knuckle bump
According to Dr. Gary Chapman’s work, there are 5 Languages. Learn which top 2 languages make you feel the most valued.
1 = Words of Affirmation
2 = Quality Time
3 = Receiving Gifts
4 = Acts of Service
5 = Physical Touch
This week observe how others are expressing appreciation toward you and others. Which “language” makes you feel most valued and what happens when someone uses your least preferred language?
Try giving this simple quiz to your employees. Start speaking their language, feed them with the right kind of appreciation and you’ll notice productivity soar!